Social media has its benefits and its negatives. One of those negatives happens to be the fact it is a breeding ground for jealousy. It happens to all of us – you see an accomplishment or a picture of a life update which just happens to release a twinge in your heart. If he/she has this, why can’t I?
One of the best reminders I ever heard on the topic of jealousy is remembering this: when ever you feel jealous, when you think why does someone have something you don’t, remember that you are in fact questioning Allah swt’s will for blessing that person with whatever it may be. That is an extremely scary thought. Allah swt has given us so much to begin with and jealousy makes us forget what we do have and focus on what we don’t have. Jealousy also almost takes us into the realm of kufr, questioning Allah swt’s Divine Wisdom. May Allah swt protect us.
Remember that people tend to post the highlights of their life on social media. Yes, God may have blessed that person immensely but you’re not seeing the struggles he or she may go through on a daily basis to be where they are today. It’s very easy to sit behind a computer or phone screen and judge. It could be that the same blessing, in your hands, would have led you astray. It could be that the same blessing is in fact a test for that person which you could not have handled.
In the blessed days of Ramadan, the following hadith is extremely relevant: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Envy consumes good deeds just as fire burns wood. Charity extinguishes sinful deeds just as water extinguishes fire. Prayer is the light of the believer and fasting is his shield from the Hellfire.” [ibn Majah]
Don’t allow envy and jealousy – during Ramadan and the upcoming year – to extinguish the deeds of praying, fasting, and charity that you so painstakingly racked up. In the end, the person who will most greatly benefit or be afflicted from the jealousy in your heart is you. Don’t allow the fire to consume you.