Of course, I would want to blog during exams.
You know, when you love someone so much, it hurts to see them hurting in any way? Yeah. It sucks.
I can’t even attempt to be eloquent about it because it’s one of those things which just hurt. You see this person hurting and struggling and sometimes (most of the times, it seems), there’s really nothing you can do. What hurts even more is when it’s an issue with deen (religion).
When you love something for yourself, you want to share it with everyone around you, especially those closest to you. Deen is one of those touchy subjects. I’m not in any way encouraging anyone to force religion on any person. What I’m talking about is when you share something meaningful with a loved one, something deen has done for you or taught you, something you feel would benefit this person, and it seemingly goes in one ear and out the other. It’s a reminder that hidaya is ultimately in the Hands of Allah and that our job is only to share the message. But when you’re so emotionally invested in a person, it just plain hurts.
I was thinking that whatever we struggle with, there is some example from the Seerah and/or the Prophets. SubhanAllah, for this, there are many. The biggest one would be of the relationship between Abu Talib and RasulAllah, sal Allahu ‘alayhi wa sallam. Just think about it. Abu Talib was his RasulAllah (SAWS)’s uncle. Abu Talib raised him like a son. His biological son, Ali, radhia’Allahu ‘anhu, was the Prophet’s cousin, friend, and son-in-law. Abu Talib taught the Prophet about work – gave him his job as a shepherd, something all prophets did. They were related by blood and had a strong relationship of their own. When RasulAllah (SAWS) needed protection in some of his hardest days from the Quraysh in Makkah, Abu Talib was there. He stood by his side when he needed it the most.
Yet he didn’t accept Islam. Can you imagine how RasulAllah (SAWS) felt? It breaks my heart just to think of it. But this is it. We have to do whatever we’re capable of – give da’wah, give advice, be a friend – but in the end, it is up to Allah swt whether or not that person accepts or denies. Come to think of it, Allah swt does not put the burden of the their acceptance on our shoulders. All we have to do is relay the message. After that, it is up to the individual.
This example comes over and over again in the history of mankind. Prophet Nuh (as) and his family (hello, ark). Prophet Lut (as) and his family (uh-oh, angels). Prophet Ibrahim (as) and his father (oh hey, statue). Prophet Yaqoob (as) and Yusuf (as) and their family (oh boy, well). Some end more happily than others. But many of these examples show us over and over again that even a prophet cannot guarantee the guidance of his followers, let alone his family. It all (always) goes back to Allah.
Back to our friends and family. RasulAllah (SAWS) never left the side of Abu Talib. Even at his death, he was next to him. Trying until the last second. We should never despair in the guidance of Allah and His power to guide the hearts of our friends and family. As much as it hurts to see a loved one make decisions which may hurt them in this life or the next, we have to stand by their side with support and advice. Maybe one day, it will so happen that they accept your advice. Maybe they never will. Allah swt has His reasons in His infinite wisdom for either scenario. When it comes down to it, isn’t never giving up the least we could do?